But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.James 3:8
When we speak to others we can either uplift or teardown. Putting positive words out is developed within.The more we put positive words in us the less likely we will have room for negative thought and negative words. Our words give us power. We chose how we want to use our words, and how we allow them impact our lives.
As a married woman, it use to be very difficult to control my tongue, not thinking before speaking, the feeling that I had to let it be known I was not dumb.
That was my wall that I built to protect myself. I was using my tongue as a defense. Although I was not cussing at people it was having a smart mouth and quick response to anything said to me.
Now I realize, that my thinking before speaking and choosing more positive words have been life changing in communication. Sarcasm that rolled off my tongue clearly spoke of what was in my heart. The negative thoughts that I allowed to take over my mind would came out of my mouth in the way that I would speak to others.
Now with a controlled tongue I speak life into my words. Not using words to tear down others or myself.
Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6
Being a woman of God, it is important that we have our verbiage under control. It can be easy to get caught up in the daily activities of negative language with others. Controlling our words takes away the negative attitudes and the way we can offend others with the use of our tongue.
Words express your personality, it represents you. That’s the mark that you leave behind, the words that you use towards others. Are you a person that uplifts with encouraging words that provides confidence or are you a person that tears down another with insults, criticism, lies and gossip?
When she speaks her words are wise and she gives instructions with kindness. Proverbs 31:26
This is what we should keep in the forefront of our minds daily while we are speaking to others. This is the way we present ourselves, the way our daughters will duplicate. As we pray for others and ourselves, we hold back the spewing of negativity from our tongue.
What you put in is what you get out. As long as you read the word listen to positive things that what your mind-tongue will feed on and put out. Proverbs 18: 20-21