If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. ~ Matthew 6:14-15 NLT
When growing I would often hear from many say forgive and forget. In my mind I would think I would never forgive or forget what this person has said or done to me. I always felt that everything done was intentional not by mistake. It was more of being sure that the person definitely had to think before the action.
Most of the time people don’t see the lack of forgiveness as an issue. As most of us know, the forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for you.
You can’t expect to move forward in life still holding on to the past and having a hardened heart against another person. Non forgiveness brews anger within you. Your non forgiving heart generates anger in you increasing the multiple emotions.
This does not mean you are to forget, but you are suppose to learn and move forward.
If anytime you think of that person or the incident you have not completely forgiven and you begin to feel numerous emotions come upon then you have not completely forgiven. It’s when you have truly taken it in as a learning experience and maybe even have started to pray for that person, then you know you have forgiven and moved forward.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. ~Ephesians 4:31-32
Forgive so you can grow and learn from the situation. From experience forgiveness is one of the toughest things we go through. It’s not going to happen overnight all the time, because for me it has taken me years to get over a few things and every revenge factor has come through my mind on many different levels.
If you’re anything like me you were probably filled with anger and plotting your revenge. It came to a point that being hurt and taken advantage of became very irritating. My meekness that’s taken for weakness.
Forgiving yourself is one of the toughest things to do. Forgiveness had to start with me. Not concerning myself with the thoughts or actions of others.